原諒別人，放過自己
卷首語
作者：by Jesse Hunter
I hold grudges against everyone， even when making a conscious effort not to. I even hold grudges against myself for the things I’ve done in my life， things that I still feel guilty about today； like failing acting class in college， which ended up costing my mother tens of thousands of dollars. I also hold a grudge against my dad. But however justified my anger may be， as the years go by， my desire to mend fences and reconnect only grows stronger. But when I open my computer to make that trans-world reconciliatory call， something stops me. It’s that grudge I can’t let go of， my inability to handle the emotions that are destined to surface during our talk. And that just makes me madder at myself for not being able to forgive a man who was just looking out for his “real” family， his wife and two daughters（my half-sisters）.
As you may have been able to surmise from the intro， this month’s features are all about forgiveness. First， in Forgiveness and Freedom， Nancy’s late father keeps appearing on her sofa， until she realizes that her forgiveness could set them both free. Next， in Moms Are Like That， Sallie’s mother-in-law never approved of Sallie marrying her son. And Sallie wasn’t able to forgive her for it， that is， until both her husband and mother-in-law had passed on. And Forgiveness Is Possible shows us that even a bitter ex-wife can put grudges aside and forgive the man who hurt her， as in the final months of her ex-husband’s life， she tries to help heal the wounds he caused and repair the familial bonds between him and his kids.