Being shy can be charming。To many it is more attractive to be unassertive than to be a blowhard。Some even pretend to be shy to not shy away others。So there are good sides to it and you should embrace them。But how to deal with the negative side？
Shyness as such is nothing bad and once you have accepted it as part of your personality will be easier already。But if shyness becomes a hurdle to reach your goals，you have to set some measures to fight it。Situations with which you are not familiar with can become such a challenge，so at first work on getting an overview。The more familiar you become with a certain condition the more confident you will act。It helps to play various situations in your mind：making a presentation，mingle with a group，or to approach someone you would like to get to know。You can create different scenarios and even deal with what you would consider the worst case。I remember my best friend and I playing certain scenes with changing roles。And I confess part of it was how to talk to boys。
Many who are young and shy feel as if they are under observation and constantly assessed。You enter a classroom or party and you feel all eyes are on you。Do they really？Why not start watching the others？Sure there is someone standing alone。Why not start talking？Why not just smile at someone？But I am not pretty，not intelligent enough，not funny and not quick witted，you might say。Think of the people you like。Are they all super smart，good looking and smashing personalities？Most likely not。