第二章 聆聽幸福的聲音
Enjoy the Sound of Happiness
你會懂得
After a While...
佚名 / Anonymous
After a while you learnThe subtle differenceBetween holding a hand and chaining a soul;And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning,And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contractsAnd presents aren’t promises;And you begin to accept your defeatsWith your head up and eyes open,With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads On today because tomorrow’s ground Is too uncertain for plans, and futures have
A way of falling down in mid flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine Burns if you get too much; So plant your own garden and decorate Your own soul, instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...That you really are strongAnd you really do have worth.And you learn and learnWith every good bye you learn, you relieve...
你很快就會懂得， 握住一隻手與鎖住一顆心， 之間有著精妙的差異； 你懂得愛並非依賴， 有陪伴並非就安全。
你會懂得親吻並非契約， 禮物也非承諾； 失戀的痛苦你也開始能夠承受。
昂起你的頭，睜開你的眼，展現你女人的風姿綽約，而非孩子般的憂鬱無助。
你該清楚，應該在今天鋪設自己所有的路。因為明天充滿了太多的變數，很難規劃，且未來總會出其不意地出現在我們麵前。
你很快就會懂得，若擁有太多的陽光，也會使人灼傷；因此要培植自己的花園，美化自己的心靈，而不要靜待別人把鮮花送至你手。
你會懂得自己確實很有耐力……自己的確很堅強，且擁有自身的價值。你會逐漸懂得更多，每次的分手都會令你有所感悟，並再度釋然……
心靈小語
伴隨著成長，我們會知道越來越多；伴隨著成長，我們還將會知道越來越多。也許有些欣喜，或者是無奈，這都是成長的代價！
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subtle ['s?tl] adj. 敏感的；精細的；狡猾的例 True magic is a very subtle thing. 真正的魔法是一種非常微妙的事。
security [si'kju?iti] n. 安全；保證金；抵押品例 We need greater security in car parks. 我們需要加強停車場的安全措施。
contract ['k?ntr?t] n. 合約；婚約；立約例 There is an arbitration clause in the contract. 這是合同中的一項仲裁條款。
endure [in'dju?] v. 忍耐；容忍例 It can endure proof of time. 它能經受時間的考驗。
你懂得愛並非依賴，有陪伴並非就安全。
你該清楚，應該在今天鋪設自己所有的路。
你很快就會懂得，若擁有太多的陽光，也會使人灼傷。
After a while you learn that you really can endure... after a while：過一會兒；片刻後；不久
So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. instead of： 代替；而不是；不是……而是
自信的力量
Confidence
佚名 / Anonymous
Every day is a new day in our life. There is much to do today. The early morning sun inspires us to start things freshly and put back our past. Only a handful of us make use of this fresh bunch of energy. In variouswalks of life this affects the way we behave and our confidence level. Confidence is a key to survive in this world. It is the only key tool to win the rat race in every walk of life. Confidence in ones own capabilities combined with sincere efforts helps one to achieveunthinkable heights. But many times we see that this basic element of confidence is missing in us. As a result of lack of confidence we perform well below our caliber. Be it in a public speech, proposing your beloved, visas for your college or in an interview or say even on the eve before your exams. This can be due
to fear of being rejected or any other reason. If we look into our hearts and think, we will come to know that
fear inside us is going to get us nowhere. The confidence inside us is going to take us places. This is because with confidence we can put
our thoughts into words in a better and pleasing way. So we have to get out of that shell where we think whether people will accept us as we are? Instead of living in these unending moments of fear and thoughtless analysis, it is better if we project ourselves with the skills
we have with the gloss of confidence. With confidence we can portray the finer points of our personality in such a way that the places where
we do lack are never highlighted. Confidence should glow in us only till the point where our
personality is boosted. Above this it leads to over-confidence that is
harmful.
Over-confidence results in unsatisfied performance levels as the seed of ego grows into a plant into our mind. We then imagine and make big talks just to maintain our ego. So guys don’t let the seed of ego to germinate in your mind, as this seed should be used only for you to live up to your expectations.
Confidence is all about being cool, calm and composed.
So guys do you have it in you? If you think you don’t, boost up yourselves as your mind is your greatest mentor.You are your greatest helper.
生命中的每一天都是新的，我們有許多事情要在今天做。清晨的陽光激勵我們卸下包袱，輕裝上路，一切重新開始。但隻有少數人能利用這股清新的力量，這對各個行業的人的行為方式和自信程度都有一定影響。自信是你立足於世界的關鍵，也是取勝於各行各業的關鍵。真誠努力的自信可以使人達到登峰造極的境界，然而我們卻經常看到很多人缺少基本的自信因素。因為沒有自信，我們的表現不能真實地展現自己的能力。不管是在公眾麵前講話，對愛人表白，還是考大學，或口試、麵試，甚至在考試之前都如此。這些都可能是因為害怕被拒絕。
若洞察了自己的心靈和思維，就會發現內心的恐懼會讓我們一事無成，而滿懷自信則會戰無不勝。這是因為自信能使我們更淋漓盡致地表達自己的思想，所以我們沒必要總擔心會得不到別人的接受與肯定。與其生活在無盡的恐懼和粗略的分析中，不如滿懷自信，憑借我們的技能盡力打造自己。擁有自信，我們能將自己真實的一麵精彩地展示出來，同時有效地彌補缺憾。
我們的自信應該隨著個性的張揚程度適時而止，過度的自信是有害的。
當“自負”的種子植根於心間，過分自信就總是令人不滿。而後我們會展開想象的翅膀，甚至用說大話來保持自我形象。所以切勿讓“自負”的種子植根於你的頭腦，隻有當你希望實現自己的期望值時，才可以植入。
自信就要冷靜、沉著而鎮定。
你心裏擁有這些因素嗎？如果你覺得沒有，就該給自己鼓勁，因為隻有心靈才是你的良師益友。你才是自己最大的救星。
various ['v?.ri?] adj. 各種各樣的例 Why do the various characters need so much money? 為什麼不同的角色都需要這麼多錢？
achieve [?t?i:v] v. 完成；達到；實現例 I can tell you about lofty goals, but I cannot achieve them for you. 我可以給你講講高尚的目標，但我不能代你去實現它們。
caliber ['k?ib? n. 能力；才幹；器量例 Civilization can not rise abore the caliber of its leadership. 文化影響一個人的領導才幹。
expectation [?kspek'tei??] n. 期待；預期；指望例 He labored under the weight of great expectation. 巨大的期望值使他備感壓力。
擁有自信，我們能將自己真實的一麵精彩地展示出來，同時有效地彌補缺憾。
我們的自信應該隨著個性的張揚程度適時而止。
過度的自信是有害的。
As a result of lack of confidence we perform well below our caliber. as a result of：由於……結果；作為……的結果
This can be due to fear of being rejected or any other reason. due to：是由於
喜歡自己更多一點
Liking Yourself More
佚名 / Anonymous
Recently I turned to a friend who was riding in my car and asked her, “What do you like about yourself?” We rode in silence for several minutes. Finally, she turned to me and said, apologetically, “I can’t think of anything.”
I was stunned. My friend is intelligent, charming, and compassionate—yet she couldn’t see any of that.
I know she’s not alone. Low self-esteem has become the number-one issue plaguing women. Despite God’s assurance that he’s absolutely crazy about us, most of us can’t believe he means us. It’s like the cynical editor who tells the cub reporter, “If your mother says she loves you, check it out.”
I was a reporter for 12 years. One of the first things I learned in researching a story was “garbage in, garbage out.” If your raw
data is flawed, you end up with a faulty conclusion. The same is true with how we see ourselves. If we lack self-confidence, maybe we’re working with flawed data.
The reality is, in hundreds of subtle ways, our culture, family,
friends—even our thought life—conspire to undermine our confidence.
We grow up in families void of affirmation, encouragement, and respect—the building blocks to self-confidence. Then we find ourselves smack dab in the middle of a world that lionizes Size Two
Hollywood starlets and Barbie-doll figures. Our paycheck, our title, or some other artificial yardstick gives us temporary entree into the world
of The Accepted. But in our hearts, we know it isn’t real. How do we
find our way to the truth?
I’m technophobia. My brother got all the genes required to understand operating manuals, to repair things, or to make sense of computers. When I first had to learn how to use a computer for my job, I was convinced it was the end of life as I knew it.
I remember with painful clarity a beginner’s computer class where the instructor told us to “press any key”. I searched in vain for the “any” key. By the end of the class, I was certain I wasn’t smart enough to drive myself home, much less dress for work the next day. This was despite the fact that I managed a home, a family, a job, and a professional staff.
Why was it so humiliating? Because I compared myself to the 10-year-old girl next door who effortlessly surfed the Net to research her term papers while I struggled just to log on. Instead of simply concluding that technical prowess is not one of my strengths, I concluded I must be stupid. It was a lie.
People respect us as much as we respect ourselves. That’s why
the absence of self-confidence can telegraph to others not to believe in
us.
For years I struggled to receive a compliment graciously. If someone complimented my hair, I’d discount it. I’d say my hairstyle made my face look fat or that my hair was a mousy color. What I really meant was, There must be some mistake. I’m not worth your regard. I don’t like myself and can’t really believe you do, either. The trouble is, if we persist in putting ourselves down, eventually people start to believe we’re right.
Sometimes the problem isn’t faulty data. We have an accurate picture of ourselves or a situation, but we capitulate the first time someone challenges us.
Several years ago, I discovered a grape-sized lump on my left breast. My doctor scheduled outpatient surgery right away. A month later, when I resumed periodic self-examination, I felt the same lump in the same hard-to-reach place. I was certain of it! When I called the doctor to suggest he might have missed the lump in question, he insisted I was wrong. It could not possibly be a lump, he said, because he had removed it. After all, he was the doctor.
I got off the phone, doubting what I’d felt with my own hand. But fear of lethal consequences gave me the courage to insist he re-examine me, at which point he reluctantly acknowledged that, yes, it did seem to be the original lump. He removed it in a second surgery.
In my case, I had to confess that I was stupid because I didn’t understand technical things. Yet, even after acknowledging that I’m actually a pretty intelligent person, I still had to grieve the fact that no amount of classes or training would ever completely solve my technical ineptitude!
Another lie I believed about myself was that I’d been selfish for
having only one child. The truth is, I nearly died giving birth to my daughter, and my husband didn’t want to adopt. Still, I spent years feeling like an inferior mother—like I should have trusted God to protect me in subsequent childbirth.
I now believe that—in my case—one child was God’s will for me. I’ve rejected the condemnation. Nevertheless, I had to grieve that I’d never have the houseful of children I’d always wanted.
最近，我問坐在我車裏的一位朋友：“你喜歡自己什麼？”沉默了好幾分鍾後，她轉向我，滿臉歉意地說：“我想不出來。”
我十分詫異，她竟看不到自己的任何優點。她是一個多麼聰明、美麗迷人而又富有同情心的姑娘啊！
我深知並非隻有她一人如此，自尊心較低已成為女性最大的困擾。盡管上帝保證深愛著我們，但我們大多數人不能相信他是說的“我們”。就像憤世嫉俗的編輯對初出茅廬的記者說：“如果你媽媽說她愛你，那就去確認一下吧。”
我已經做了十二年的記者，在采訪中我首先學到的是“錯進，錯出”。若你的初始資料有誤，那麼你的結論也不會正確。同理，我們看待自己也是如此。如果我們缺乏自信心，那也是正在操作有錯誤的數據資料。
事實上，通過許多種微妙的方式，我們的信心被文化、家庭、朋友甚至是精神生活共同削弱。我們成長的家庭缺乏肯定、鼓勵和尊重，而這些正是建立自信的基石。於是，我們發現，自己所處的世界推崇好萊塢二流明星和芭比娃娃的形象。我們的薪水、頭銜或者其他人為的標準讓我們臨時步入所謂的上流社會。但是，在內心深處，我們知道它並不真實，那通往真實的道路到底在哪裏呢？
我有科技恐懼症，我的哥哥對此卻極有天賦，能讀懂操作手冊、修理東西、使用電腦。當我為了找工作第一次學習電腦時，我就堅信自己畢生都學不會它。
我痛苦而又清醒地記得，在電腦初學者培訓班裏，老師讓我們“按任意鍵”，我徒勞地尋找“任意”鍵。那堂課終於結束後，我敢確信，自己連開車回家的能力都沒有了，明天打扮得體地去上班就更不可能了，盡管事實上我管理了一棟房子，一個家庭，擁有一份工作，是一個專業的職員。
為什麼會覺得如此丟臉呢？因為，我與隔壁那個10歲的小女孩比較，她輕輕鬆鬆地在網上搜索期末成績，而我煞費苦心隻是想上網。我沒有認為科技能力不是我的強項，而是得出自己很愚蠢這樣的結論，這是不正確的。
我們怎樣尊重別人，別人就會同樣地尊重我們。這就是不自信會暗示別人不要相信我們的原因。
多年來，我努力學習優雅地接受恭維。如果有人誇讚我的頭發，我會不予理會。我會說，我的發型讓我的臉看起來更胖了，或者我的頭發是灰色的。我真正想說的是，肯定會有不足之處，我不值得您稱道。我不喜歡自己，也不相信您會真正喜歡。問題是，如果我們一味貶低自己，最終別人也會相信我們所說的是對的。
有時候，錯誤的信息不是問題，而是我們對自己或處境要有一個正確的判斷。但是，別人一旦質疑，我們就屈從了。
幾年前，我發現自己左胸上長了一個葡萄狀的硬塊。我的醫生立刻安排了一次外科手術。一個月以後，當我繼續做定期體檢時，我感覺在那個地方又發現了相同的硬塊，我確定有。當我打電話給醫生，跟他討論他可能沒有切除掉硬塊時，他堅持說我錯了，不可能有一個硬塊，他說，因為他已經切除了。畢竟，他是醫生。
我掛掉電話，懷疑自己的手的感覺。但是，對死亡的恐懼促使我鼓起勇氣，堅持讓他給我重新檢查，他極不情願地指著那個地方承認了，是的，它好像還是原來的那個硬塊。他再次動外科手術切除了。
對我來說，我必須坦白承認，我很愚蠢，因為我不懂技術方麵的東西。但是，承認這個事實後，我的確是一個相當聰明的人。隻是令我悲傷的是，不論多少課程或者培訓都不能完全解決我的技術缺陷。
另一個不正確的觀點，是我自認為很自私，因為我隻生了一個孩子。事實上，生我女兒時我差點喪命，而且，我的丈夫不想收養。許多年來我依然覺得自己是個不稱職的母親，就像我應該信仰上帝會在以後的分娩中保佑我一樣。
對我而言，現在我相信，一個孩子正是上帝的旨意。我拒絕受到譴責。不過，我對於自己不能實現滿屋子的孩子的願望，仍感到悲哀。
心靈小語
喜歡自己多一點，自信多一點，別人才會喜歡你，相信
你！
apologetically [?.p?l?d?etik ?i] adv. 道歉地；認錯地；辯解地例“I think I’ll go upstairs and do my biology homework, ”she said, almost apologetically. “我想我該上樓做生物作業了。”她有些歉意地說。
compassionate [k?'p???it] adj. 富於同情心的；慈悲的例 The compassionate judge gave the young offender a light sentence. 慈悲的法官從輕判處了那個年輕罪犯。
absolutely ['?s?ju:tli] adv. 絕對地；完全地例 What he just said is absolutely true. 你剛才說的完全是真實的。
cynical ['sinik?] adj. 憤世嫉俗的例 My mother takes a rather cynical view of men. 我媽媽對男人有著憤世嫉俗的觀點。
事實上，通過許多種微妙的方式，我們的信心被文化、家庭、朋友甚至是精神生活共同削弱。
問題是，如果我們一味貶低自己，最終別人也會相信我們所說的是對的。
別人一旦質疑，我們就屈從了。
By the end of the class, I was certain I wasn’t smart enough to drive myself home... by the end of：到……結束時；到……為止
For years I struggled to receive a compliment graciously. struggle to：競爭
堅定自信地表達自己
Self-assertion
佚名 / Anonymous
Have you ever walked away from a situation and wished you handled it differently? At times, do you feel that others overlook your rights? Can you recall losing your temper and not getting your point across effectively? If you have answered “yes” to any of these questions, you may feel challenged in the area of assertiveness. Assertiveness is the ability to clearly represent your thoughts and feelings in a mutually respectful way. It does not infringe on the rights of others or rely on guilt for results. Assertiveness starts with the premise that each human being is given rights that do not depend on status or performance. You have the right to express your perspective. You have the right to assume personal responsibility and to decline responsibility for others. How you govern yourself in relation to these rights is important for “valued” communication.
Communication is valued when both parties, the sender and the receiver, are respected. There are three primary styles of communication: passive, assertive, and aggressive. The difference between passive, assertive, and aggressive communication rests with the exchange between parties and quality of the message. Passiveness diminishes your capacity to be heard and validated. Aggressiveness exerts differential power to promote a certain end result that is not based on mutual respect. Only assertiveness respectfully engages both parties for valued communication.
In order to achieve assertive communication, one needs a level of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-awareness. Self-confidence is projected, not performed. It has to radiate from within and does not rely on others. Self-worth comes from believing that you are a worthwhile individual who deserves the best that life has to offer. Self-awareness develops from personal monitoring. One learns of strengths and weaknesses by making internal assessments. Self-assertion is a natural process for individuals who are confident and aware. In
essence, you must have confidence within before you can demonstrate
it in the midst of others.
你是否曾逃避過某種局麵，並希望用不同的方式來處理呢？有時候，你是否覺得自己的權利被忽視？你能否回想起發脾氣，以及沒人理解你的意見的時候？如果，你對其中任何一個問題，回答“是的”的話，你可能在堅定自信的表達方麵受到了挑戰。堅定自信的表達是能夠以雙方相互尊重的方式，清晰地說出你的看法和感受。它不會侵犯別人的權利，也不會因結果而愧疚。堅定自信的表達以天賦人權為前提，不是建立在地位或成就上。你有權利表達自己的觀點，有權利承擔自己的責任，並拒絕承擔他人的責任。能否進行“有價值”的交流，關鍵在於你如何支配自己的這些權利。
當溝通的雙方——講述者和傾聽者都受到尊重時，交流才有價值。主要的溝通方式有三種：消極被動的接受、堅定自信的交流、強迫他人接受。三者的差異性在於交流雙方和信息質量不同。消極接受使你的表達和被認可的能力降低；強迫他人接受，是為了導致某種結果，而施加了其他的力量，不是建立在互相尊重的基礎上。隻有堅定自信的交流才使雙方都受到尊重，才能進行有價值的交流。
一個人需要有一定程度的自信、自我肯定和自知之明，才能進行堅定自信的交流。自信，是要從內心凸現，而不是偽裝出來的。它發自內心，不依賴於任何人。自我肯定，即相信自己的價值，相信自己是生活中美好事物的承載者。自知之明，源於自我控製，它能通過自身評定獲知自己的優缺點。對於一個自信並自知的人，堅定自信的表達是一個很自然的過程。從本質上說，在你向他人證明自己之前，必須有自信。
心靈小語
相信自己是獲取別人信任的第一步。一個人需要自信、自我肯定和自知之明，才能進行堅定自信的交流。
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assertiveness [?s?tivnis] n. 魄力；自信；果斷例 Use your own assertiveness to get the things you want. 用自己的魄力得到想要的東西。
assume [?sju:m] v. 假定；設想；承擔例 They have tended to assume increasing opportunity costs. 他們往往假定機會成本是遞增的。
aggressive [?gresiv] adj. 好鬥的；侵略性的；有進取心的例 They were the most aggressive imperialists ever known to history. 他們是曆史上最富有侵略性的帝國主義者。
promote [pr?m?t] v. 促進；提升；升遷例 This job has great chance to promote. 這份工作有很好的晉升機會。
它不會侵犯別人的權利，也不會因結果而愧疚。
堅定自信的表達以天賦人權為前提，不是建立在地位或成就上。
你有權利表達自己的觀點，有權利承擔自己的責任，並拒絕承擔他人的責任。
Have you ever walked away from a situation and wished you handled it differently？ walk away from：旁邊走開；從……平安地脫身；從……旁邊走過
How you govern yourself in relation to these rights is important for“valued” communication. in relation to：關於；涉及；與……相比；有關
忙碌的意義
Importance of Being Busy
佚名 / Anonymous
Routines are the unwritten algorithms, followed by each one of us, everyday in life. Routine is a chain of events, which never changes their order, once it is prioritized. Following the routine is a schedule of events. For a student it would be writing assignments, attending school, coaching classes or doing a project. For the businessman brandishing the tiniest Mobile phone and shielded by the darker than black shade of Mercedes, schedule is restricted to attending meetings, presentations and entertaining new prospective clients.
Sometimes life becomes so hectic that you feel as if you are the only person to whom the whole world has been merciless and that you are the only person who is working harder than anyone else. But this is the thought, which comes due to a thorough introspection of us. Even though others will be facing the same shade of destiny like us, still we
find others to be very luckier than us. Yes, the other side of the grass is
always greener and more fresh.
Maintaining your cool, at the times of difficulty and hectic schedules is the key to a bright carrier and successful life. Because unless we ourselves change the pace, with the change in times and keep ourselves abreast of the latest timetable of our organizer, we will fall behind.
However the more things one has to do or one is into, more is involved in, the greater the involvement in a mental, physical or social way into the things in which he is involved. Due to this his own personal problems are out of sight, because all the time his mind is thinking of completing the undertaken tasks. Problems once that they are out of sight, imply they are out of mind.
Each thing that we do, adds a new dimension to our personality. It shapes our thinking and makes us more organized, experienced, knowledgeable and creative. The time and sweat that we put in everyday into our tasks is the brick and mortar of our future. So friends, it is always better to be busy rather than idle. Now hasn’t everyone heard that an idle mind is a devil’s workshop? Behind every successful man is a devotedly followed hectic schedule rather than a woman.
常規是未成文的規則體係，我們每個人每天都要遵守生活常規。由一係列事件所組成的常規之間的順序很不容易打亂。遵守常規就如同例行公事一樣，對一個學生而言，無非是寫作業、上學、參加輔導班或實施一個計劃。對生意人而言無非是擺弄他們微小的手機，防護得比奔馳車還要嚴實，而他們的日程隻是局限於參加會議，作演說或博取潛在客戶的歡心。
有時生活變得異常忙亂，讓你覺得世界隻對你一個人殘忍，你是世界上比任何人都賣力工作的人。但這是自我反省後得出的結論。雖然別人可能和我們一樣會遭受同樣的不幸，但我們總覺得別人比自己幸運。確實，我們總會認為葉子的另一麵更鮮綠。
困難和繁忙時期的冷靜豁達是創造光明和成功人生的關鍵。因為我們若不隨著時間的流逝調整自己的步伐，緊跟領導的最新日程安排，就會掉隊。
一個人要做的事情越多，他投入的精力和體力就越多，也就越認識不到自身的問題，因為他把全部心思都放在怎樣完成任務上。看不到自身的問題，也就不會煩心了。
我們所做的每件事都對我們的人格有新的量度。它能塑造我們的思想，使我們更有組織性，更富經驗，更有學識和創造力。我們每天為完成任務所花的時間和所流的汗水就是構築我們未來的磚瓦。所以，朋友們，繁忙總比無所事事好。“遊手好閑的頭腦是魔鬼的作坊。”想必大家都聽過這句話吧？每個成功男人的背後是一張規整而緊湊的日程安排，而非女人。
routine [ru:'ti:n] n. 常規；例行公事；日常工作例 Try movement activities and stretching to build physical awareness of motion into the routine. 嚐試運動和伸展活動，進而樹立自覺的意識並將其納入常規。
algorithm ['?ɡ?ie.m] n. 規則；算法；運算法則例 Algorithm is a problem solved by the formation of the formula. 規則是解決一個問題所形成的公式。
introspection [?intr?'spek??] n. 內省；反思；自省例 Introspection is the best guideline for life. 自省是最好的人生指導。
dimension [di'men??] n. 尺寸；次元；容積例 Length is one dimension,and width is another. 長是一種度量，寬又是一種度量。
有時生活變得異常忙亂，讓你覺得世界隻對你一個人殘忍，你是世界上比任何人都賣力工作的人。
困難和繁忙時期的冷靜豁達是創造光明和成功人生的關鍵。
每個成功男人的背後是一張規整而緊湊的日程安排，而非女人。
...his mind is thinking of completing the undertaken tasks. think of：考慮；關心；想起
...it is always better to be busy rather than idle. rather than：不是……（而是）；寧願……（而不）
有效利用時間
Importance of Time
佚名 / Anonymous
They say Life and Death are not in anyone’s hands.They are things that just happen every time and with everyone. Same is the case with time. Most of the times we take it for granted that there is always plenty of time. Due to this perhaps we indulge in various activities, which are a wholesale waste of time.
The clock is always ticking. The seconds keep on ticking just like busy ants. The ants keep themselves always busy by always hunting for food everywhere. Similarly the seconds always keep on ticking to attain short-term goals of making a minute with 60 ticks. After reaching a milestone of a minute the second hand of a clock doesn’t take a break, but start afresh for another round of 60 ticks. They take it minute by minute and inadvertently reach a quarter of an hour, and hour and then a day. They always focus on the smaller targets—that
is a minute and the bigger aim of the clock itself gets fulfilled. That’s
why the minutes hands have to work less, as the seconds hand does most of the running around. The minute hand just has to make 60 movements on a clock dial. The hours hand is the luckiest of the lot. It just moves once in an hour. But the seconds hand moves for 3600 times around the dial for the same hour!
Parallel to this, in our life to we never realizes that we have lots to do. Between every big task we can always find enough time to fit in a plethora of smaller tasks. If you are waiting for a train at the station, you can always read a magazine or rather chalk out your study timetable for exams. While traveling in the bus too one can find enough time to at least skim through the previous days notes.
Be like the clock. Always keep on ticking by involving yourself in various things and learning new things. These small knowledge and experience modules will perhaps one day take you to your bigger goal some day. They say “Time and Tide waits for no man”. If so, now stop staring at the screen and utilize your time effectively!
人們說生死不掌控在任何人手中。
生與死隨時都可能發生在每個人身上，時間也如此。多數時候我們都覺得時間充足，因此放縱自己去從事各種各樣完全是浪費時間的活動。
時鍾總是不停地滴答，秒針也像為了覓食而不停忙碌的螞蟻一樣永不停息地前行。同樣，為了實現秒針滴答60次完成一分鍾的任務，它一刻不停地忙碌奔走著，即使完成了一分鍾，它也不停歇，又開始新一輪的60次征程。它們走了一分鍾又一分鍾，不經意間走了一刻鍾、一小時甚至一天。它們始終專注小目標，也就是一分鍾，使時鍾的更大目標自然而然地得以實現。這就是分針走得少，秒針走得多的原因。分針一小時要走60次。時針是它們中最幸運的，它一小時隻需走一次，而秒針在一小時內卻要走3600次。
與之類似的是，生活中我們從未認識到有大量的工作等著我們去做。每個艱巨的任務之間總會有足夠的時間供我們去完成一些小任務。例如你在火車站等火車時，可以閱讀雜誌或為考試製定複習計劃。當你乘巴士出行時，也會有充足的時間翻閱一下前些天的筆記吧。
與時鍾相似，你總是循序漸進地卷入各種事件，以獲得新知。這些瑣碎的知識和經驗將有助於你日後更大目標的實現。俗話說“歲月不待人”，若果真如此，從現在起做事情就不要流於形式，而應有效地利用時間。
心靈小語
時間永遠都在，消逝的是我們。公平的是，時間無法利用我們，我們能夠利用時間！在有限的時間裏，我們能留下什麼？能創造與之對應的價值嗎？
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indulge [in'd?ld?] v. 滿足；使沉迷於……；使高興；縱容例 Do not ignore cherishing spirit, do not indulge in seeking pleasure. 不要忘記靈魂也需要愛護，不要沉迷於追歡逐樂。
target ['tɑ:git] n. 靶；目標例 What is your target market? 你的目標市場是什麼？
involve [in'v?lv] v. 包括；涉及；使陷於例 Evidence involving State secrets shall be kept confidential. 對於涉及國家秘密的證據，應當保密。
effectively [i'fektivli] adv. 有效地，生效地；實際上例 What method can go effectively of pouch? 有什麼辦法可以有效去眼袋的？
人們說生死不掌控在任何人手中。
多數時候我們都覺得時間充足，因此放縱自己去從事各種各樣完全是浪費時間的活動。
歲月不待人。
Due to this perhaps we indulge in various activities... indulge in：沉溺於；沉湎於；沉迷於
They always focus on the smaller targets... focus on：集中於；以……為焦點；集中研究
變化激發創造力
Variety Fuels Creativity
佚名 / Anonymous
Variety is the fuel for survival. Variety injects the fluid of creativity in the most barren of minds. To be grooved on to your POA of a successful career life, variety combined with flexibility to fit in changing circumstances is the major mantra of the hour.
No job can be done in one single way. The more one explores, more will be the different dimensions that will be observed which can help to complete a job. It is logical to choose the better way of doing a thing among various available options. Innovation is your own discovered way of doing a job, that has been appreciably noticed and yielded favorable results. Innovation is just like a fresh paint being splashed on the walls of creativity.
Innovation is not something that cannot be achieved by us. Belief in ourselves jelled with the unique distinction of having the ability to give concrete shape to our values and ideas is what separates the boys from the men. It takes a lot of guts to venture out and execute the algorithm of ideas on our mind. The initial phase is the toughest, which will not give you any favorable takers or pushers. But to keep on going when the going is tough is what takes a test of mental perseverance and never say die grit and determination.
For students they can spice up their lives with variety by focusing on extra curricular activities apart from academics. Agreed that academics are the time-tested key to a good career and a secure job, but the books don’t make you become street smart. No matter how long you have read on swimming, unless and until you enter the water and swim, all the reading is useless. The recipes given in a cookery book are not there to be read like a book, but to be tried practically. Extra curricular activities help one to deal with people, tells one the areas where theoretical theories can’t be applied in real life and also changes the individuals outlook to various problems. Also time management becomes easy by involving one in various activities. Remember that only a busy man can find time, because he knows how to set his priorities and take out time even for the smallest task, no matter how busy his schedule is.
Variety is the spice of life. Just like different spices flavor the food in a different way, variety flavors any task. The aroma of creativity revitalizes the mind to open its creative reserves.
變化是生存的燃料，它將創造的汁液注入貧瘠的思想。要使事業成功，必須有所變化，並能靈活地適應變化的環境。
沒有哪種工作隻有一種方法才能完成，你越是探究，越能挖掘出更多不同的、有助於你工作完成的方式和方法。在這些不同的選項中，選取比較好的方式和方法去做某事是合乎邏輯的。革新是你自己發現的一種做事方法，它已經引起人們的注意，並產生了良好的效果，它就如同創造之牆上的新漆。
革新並非遙不可及。要有自信，並具有正確的價值觀，才能將抽象的想法轉換成具體的形式，這種特有的能力會使我們出類拔萃。將心中的想法付諸實踐需要有冒險的勇氣。萬事開頭難，最初可能沒有理解和支持你的人，但要迎著困難繼續堅持走下去，這正驗證了你有堅定不移的意誌和永不言敗的決心。
對於學生來說，他們可以通過參加多種課外活動豐富自己的生活。學校的必修課是得到一份理想職業和穩定工作的關鍵，但書本知識並不能使實踐中的你更聰明。無論你花費多少時間閱讀有關遊泳的書，若你不真正下水去實踐，所有的閱讀都是徒勞。烹飪書也不是一本僅供閱讀的書，而是要將書中的理論付諸實踐。課外活動能幫助人們學習怎樣與人交往，讓人們知道並非所有的理論在實際生活中都行得通，要適當地改變個人對不同問題的看法。參與各種活動，能幫助你更合理地分配時間。謹記，忙人最容易抽出時間，因為他們知道輕重緩急。無論多麼繁忙，無論多麼瑣碎的小事，他們總能抽出時間去完成。
變化是生活的調味劑。正如不同的調料使食物有不同的口感一樣，變化使工作有條不紊。創造力的芳香使思維獲得新生，開啟創造的寶藏。
innovation [?n?'vei??] n. 創新；革新；新方法例 As a rule, innovation is a source of wealth. 規律告訴我們，創新是財富的來源之一。
execute ['eksikju:t] v. 執行；實行；處死例 I prefer to make and execute tactical plans. 我更喜歡做出戰略計劃，讓別人去執行。
determination [di??mi'nei??] n. 決心；果斷例 Being good to your body, however, requires diligence and determination. 但是，善待自己的身體也需要勤勉和決心。
academic [?ak?demik] n. 大學生；大學教師；學者例 Reading guidance service in academic library is a component of academic library service. 高校圖書館閱讀輔導服務是高校圖書館服務的組成部分。
無論你花費多少時間閱讀有關遊泳的書，若你不真正下水去實踐，所有的閱讀都是徒勞。
謹記，忙人最容易抽出時間，因為他們知道輕重緩急。
變化是生活的調味劑。
...variety combined with flexibility to fit in changing circumstances is the major mantra of the hour. combine with：加上；連同；同……相結合
...our values and ideas is what separates the boys from the men. separate from：分離；（使）分離；區別；把……分離開
心靈獨白
A Proposal to Myself
佚名 / Anonymous
I am writing this the day before I know my fate—the day before I know the answer to what will happen in my life. I am writing this with my mind set that I will carry on and not let life pass me by. I am determined that I will see the world in every aspect that may be possible for me. I am sure that I will become something, even if the envelope that carries my life inside it gives me bad news.
I will not listen to those who insist that a university degree is tile
only way you will find a means of living these days. I will ignore those
who tell me that I am a dreamer without a dream. I will tell myself that although I may not be accepted to college, I have seen the northern lights curtain themselves in front of me. I have tasted the wine in
Paris and swum in Atlantic and Pacific Oceans. I have been to an Irish
pub, and I have watched the sun rise from the Roman Forum. I have climbed the Swiss Alps and counted the stars in the sky until I could see no more.
I have experienced what it is like to live, and I will tell myself that even if that envelope is small and exudes rejection, the person that they have rejected will carry on and go on to see more mountains and swim in more waters and keep on counting the stars, because somewhere it is written that I must continue to live my life the way I know how to.
The envelope that will reach my mailbox tomorrow will bring an answer that I am ready to bear with courage and self-respect. I will not cry, unless they be tears of joy for bidding good-bye to my childhood and welcoming in a new life—one that is mysterious and unknown. One that will teach me to grow and understand why things are the way they are. One that will filter out all my regrets and let my self-worth multiply.
I will be strong in my battle and not let little things bring me down. I will tell myself that it is okay to be scatterbrained once in a while and that sometimes the kindness you show will balance out your faults. I will know that I am a good person and that being smart doesn’t necessarily mean that you are accepted into college. I know who I am and there are brain surgeons who would be challenged sorting through my multi-faceted psyche.
I am independent by nature and a proud woman. I accept who I am. And whether or not I am accepted into college, I will be true to myself and to others around me. I will learn to carry on with every good-bye I say at school this week. I will remember my friends and acquaintances and idols, and I will wish them the best of luck in life.
The envelope that has yet to reach my house will not be a letter, but rather a decision that I will make with my life. I am confused, as are most people my age around this time but I will not look back. I will only look forward tomorrow and greet each day, wherever I am with a smile.
寫這篇文章的那天，是我知道自己命運的前一天，也是我知道自己的生活中將會發生什麼的前一天。我全神貫注地寫這篇文章，相信自己會繼續前進，不會被生活拋棄。我決定盡自己一切可能去了解世界的每一方麵。我堅信自己會有所成就，盡管那封信給我帶來了壞消息，它承載著我的命運。
我將永不聽信那些人的話，他們堅持認為這個時代唯一的謀生手段屬於有大學學位的人，那些說我是一個沒有理想的空想家的人，我也將毫不理睬。我告訴自己，盡管大學可能沒有錄取我，可我曾見過北極光，它們在我麵前幕布般展開；我曾品嚐過巴黎的美酒，暢遊過大西洋和太平洋；我曾去過愛爾蘭的酒館，在古羅馬城鎮廣場欣賞過日出；我也曾爬過瑞士的阿爾卑斯山，數過天上所有能看見的星星。
我體驗了自己喜歡的生活，我會告訴自己，即使那個小信封承載的全是拒絕，這個被拒絕的人也會繼續前進，去看更多的山脈，去遊遍更多的河流，並繼續數星星，因為命中注定，我必須過屬於自己的生活，而且我也知道怎麼去過自己的生活。
明天，我的郵箱裏會有一封信，它會帶來一個答案，我已經準備好用勇氣和自尊來承受。我不會哭，除非是喜悅的淚水，因為我告別了童年，迎來了新的生活——一份神秘和未知的生活。它將教導我成長，讓我懂得事物的生存之道。它將會過濾我所有的遺憾，成倍增加我的個人價值。
在我的戰役中，我會變得強壯，瑣碎的事情將無法將我擊倒。我會告訴自己，偶爾浮躁無關緊要，友善會彌補你的過錯。我知道自己很善良，且很聰明，不一定非要上了大學才能聰明。我知道自己是誰，盡管自己的多重性格令一些大腦外科醫生都手足無措。
我生來就是一個獨立而高傲的女人，我接受自己，不論大學是否錄取我，我都會真誠對待自己和周圍的人。這個星期，我將學會堅持與學校裏的一切告別，我會記住我的朋友、熟人和偶像，我將祝願他們一生好運連連。
那封還沒有寄到的信，不隻是一封信，而是我對自己的生活做出的決定。像所有的同齡人一樣，我也很困惑，但我絕不回頭。不管身在何處，我隻會展望明天，迎接每一天的到來。
心靈小語
生活就是生下來，活下去！生甚至比死更需要勇氣。多給自己一些勇氣，不要哭泣，除非是喜悅的淚水。
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envelope ['envil?p] n. 信封例 Did this note come in an envelope? 這便條是裝在信封裏送來的嗎？
scatterbrained ['sk??breind] adj. 沒頭腦的；不專注的例 He is scatterbrained at class. 課上他精神不集中。
independent [?ndi’pend?t] adj. 獨立的；單獨的；不受約束的；無黨派的例 This time is an independent time, but is not an isolated time!
這個時代是一個獨立的時代，但不是一個孤立的時代！
acquaintance [?kweint?s] n. 熟人；了解；知道；相識例 Is he your friend or just an acquaintance? 他是你的朋友還是僅僅認識而已？
我決定盡自己一切可能去了解世界的每一方麵。
在我的戰役中，我會變得強壯，瑣碎的事情將無法將我擊倒。
不管身在何處，我隻會展望明天，迎接每一天的到來。
I am writing this with my mind set that I will carry on and not let life pass me by. carry on：繼續；進行；繼續下去
I will not listen to those who insist that a university degree is tile only way you will find a means of living these days. a means of：方式；手段
和自己溝通
Power of Self-talk
佚名 / Anonymous
Life is like a big swing, dangling between the depths of happiness and sadness. As soon as we descend down the slope of sadness, we accelerate over the ever-feel-good acclivity of happiness. At times of distress, when we are down we slip over an abyss of emotional trauma and frustrations. One who can rise above the occasion, is the architect of many wins over sorrows.
To come above tougher times you have to pep yourself up, when you are feeling low, lost and confused. This can be done effectively by self-talk. Self-talk is a way of talking to oneself. It can be effectively used for soul searching. When talking to ourselves, we hardly lie as our conscience controls our speech. Self-talk is efficient because when we are vocal about our thoughts, it makes a larger impact on our mind. Our brain then receives the same message from the mind as well as the ears. This repetition of pep talks and thoughts fine tunes the performance of the brain.